My Child is Gay. What Do I Do?

Support group now forming for parents and caregivers of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and questioning children of any age.

San Rafael, California – Spectrum Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender (LGBT) Center of Marin County is offering a free support group for parents and caregivers of children who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or questioning their sexual orientation or gender identity. The first meeting will be held on Tuesday, January 12, 6:30 – 8:00 PM at Spectrum, 30 North San Pedro Road, Suite 160, San Rafael.

“Whether your child has been ‘out’ to you for twenty years, or their sexual orientation or gender identity is still in question, this group provides a safe space for parents and other caregivers to explore their own feelings and concerns,” says Cristin Brew, MFT, Program Director at Spectrum LGBT Center.

Based in San Rafael, Spectrum LGBT Center provides resources and services to promote acceptance, understanding, and full inclusion for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people.

Research conducted over the past twenty years has shown that sexual orientation – a person’s emotional connection and attraction to another person – develops early. Both gay and straight children tend to develop their first attraction to another person at around age 10. Adolescents are much more likely to be open about their identity when they are not afraid of rejection, ridicule, or negative reactions from family and friends.

However, many parents feel uncertain when they learn their child is gay. They may not know how to react or support their child. They may have conflicting feelings about whether or not they should support their child, because they do not adequately understand what it means when their child tells them they are gay.

Current research conducted by the Family Acceptance Project at San Francisco State University, demonstrates that LGBT young people who are rejected by their parents and caregivers are at very high risk for suicide or depression. They are also more likely than their straight peers to use illegal drugs.

“This new research from the Family Acceptance Project demonstrates the significance of parental acceptance or rejection toward a child who comes out to them as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender,” says Paula Pilecki, Executive Director of Spectrum. “Parents need a place to process their own feelings and discomfort, especially when they believe being gay or transgender is wrong.”

Since 1982, Spectrum has provided resources and support to LGBT youth through a weekly drop-in support group called Rainbow’s End. An estimated 25,000 youth ages 14-25 have found acceptance and friendship as a result of Spectrum’s work.

Parents, too, have turned to Spectrum for guidance when their children have revealed their sexual orientation or gender identity to be something other than what was assumed.

"I understand the turmoil parents might experience when they find out their child is gay," says Cynthia Wuthmann, parent of a gay son and volunteer for Spectrum's Speakers Bureau. "Parents need a safe place to process their own fears and feelings as they come to a greater understanding of how to best support their children during such a significant time."

ABOUT SPECTRUM’S PARENT SUPPORT GROUP:
Beginning in January 2010, Spectrum’s Parent Support Group will meet on the second Tuesday of each month from 6:30 – 8:00 PM at Spectrum, 30 North San Pedro Road, Suite 160, in San Rafael. Facilitated by Erin Gray, M.S., MFT Intern (Supervisor Nancy Gump, MA, MFT, MFC25530). The group is open to parents and caregivers of children of any age who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or questioning their sexual orientation or gender identity. To learn more, contact Cristin Brew, MFT, at (415) 472-1945, ext. 203.
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Spectrum provides community leadership in promoting acceptance, understanding, and full inclusion for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people. For more information visit http://www.spectrumlgbtcenter.org/.

Spectrum LGBT Center
30 North San Pedro Road, Suite 160
San Rafael, CA 94903
(415) 472-1945

March for Peace and Non-Violence - Hosted by Marin Academy High School

March for Peace and Non- Violence

You Are Invited!
December 2, 2009

Where: We will start on the lawn in front of the San Rafael Library (5th and E St.), march through downtown San Rafael, then gather at the Cold Stone Plaza.

When: 12:15pm (Meet at 5th and E St., San Rafael)
12:30pm (Gather at Cold Stone Plaza)
12:45pm (Send the Marchers to San Francisco)

On October 2, 2009, the World's first International March for Peace and Non-Violence began. Currently 25 marchers are traveling across six contents asking for the elimination of nuclear weapons and an end to war. As the march makes its way across the world many honorary marches are taking place.

On Wednesday, December 2, the World March for Peace and Non-Violence will be coming through the Bay Area. Marin Academy will have the honor of hosting three of the marchers, and in conjunction with their efforts, the Marin Academy Peace and Justice Coalition will be sponsoring its own march in support of Peace and Non-Violence. Our march will be led by the International Marchers and our honored special guest, Takashi Tanemori, a survivor of the Hiroshima Atomic Bomb. From the San Rafael Library, we will march through downtown San Rafael to the Cold Stone Plaza for a culminating event, sending the World Marchers off on their continued journey. For more information on the March, go to www.worldmarchusa.net.

We encourage you to join us and we will be honored if you can participate. The more voices for peace and non-violence in any form, the bigger the impact we will have.

Thank You So Much!
Marin Academy Peace and Justice Coalition
For more information contact Mark at mstefanski@ma.org.

LGBT CENTERS RECEIVE INNOVATIVE GRANTS FOR MENTAL HEALTH PROGRAMS

The Johnson Family Foundation has announced that The Pacific Center for Human Growth in Berkeley, CA, and the Long Island GLBT Community Center in Bay Shore, NY have each been awarded a $150,000 grant over 3 years dedicated to increasing the variety and quality of mental health services provided by LGBT community centers and strengthening the overall organizational capacity of these institutions during a critical phase in their development.

CenterLink: The Community of LGBT Centers is proud to be a partner in this new mental health initiative and will be working with both centers to implement yearly organizational technical assistance plans through additional funding made available from the Foundation. “CenterLink is thrilled to be part of this truly innovative program and we look forward to working with each center as they become model programs in the delivery of mental health services for the LGBT community,” said Terry Stone, Executive Director.

The grants were awarded to support specific capacity building projects of already existing mental health programs, and are the first year of a three year project during which additional LGBT centers will be eligible to apply for funding in 2010 and 2011. CenterLink reports there are currently over 180 LGBT centers in 48 states in the U.S. which serve over 40,000 people weekly through a diverse range of programs and services.

“This grant will enable our organization to improve efficiency, reach more people and provide more services relevant to our local community’s needs today. Our daily goal is to help people live confidently throughout the course of their lives and this grant will directly support those who come to us for help,’’ said the Pacific Center for Human Growth’s Executive Director, Leslie Ewing.

“The goal to provide LGBT centers the capacity to move to next level in the delivery of such services seems to be now reachable,” explains David Kilmnick, the Long Island GLBT Center’s Executive Director. ‘‘The Center’s capacity to serve clients is expected to double... [and] at the end of the three year grant period, The Center will be positioned to take its next steps toward opening the first GLBT mental health clinic on Long Island.’’

CenterLink applauds the commitment of the Johnson Family Foundation and looks forward to working with them and the centers to build a stronger, healthier LGBT community through innovative, sustainable, and effective programming at LGBT centers everywhere.

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Founded in 1994, CenterLink: The Community of LGBT Centers is the only national organization working to expand the organizational and advocacy capacity of LGBT community centers through direct technical assistance, leadership skills development and resource coordination. CenterLink believes LGBT centers represent the backbone of the LGBT movement, serving over 40,000 people weekly. For more information on CenterLink and its members, visit www.lgbtcenters.org.

The Johnson Family Foundation is a progressive family foundation. JFF operates national grantmaking programs in the areas of environmental health and LGBT issues, as well as place-based grantmaking programs in the State of Vermont; New York City and Long Island, NY; the City of Pittsburgh, PA; and the town of Telluride, CO. JFF made grants totaling approximately $3.6 million in 2008. Find out more by visiting www.jffnd.org.

Equality California Institute Receives $444,000 Grant from CA Department of Mental Health

Historic Grant to Assess and Improve Mental Health Services for
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) individuals

Los Angeles - The California LGBT Health and Human Services Network of Equality California Institute (EQCAI) has been awarded a two-year, $444,000 grant by the California Department of Mental Health. This historic grant will fund a first ever statewide assessment of the mental health needs of LGBT communities.

"The impact of discrimination on lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people is immense, often leading to mental health issues like depression, substance abuse and even suicide," said Geoff Kors, Executive Director of EQCAI. "Never before has the state invested in research of this scope for the LGBT community. This is an important step toward ensuring equal access to culturally appropriate mental health services that can help the LGBT community overcome these challenges."

The study will collect statewide data on the harm caused by discrimination, examining such issues as depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, substance abuse and suicide. It will identify the best ways to prevent and treat mental health issues in the LGBT community. The project will be guided by a statewide work group drawn from within the LGBT community, and it will work collaboratively within the multicultural and multilingual populations in California.

"This grant will literally change the face of mental health services in California and be a model for the rest of the nation," said Daniel Gould, EQCAI's Health and Human Services Network Coordinator. "The work we do will guide LGBT organizations, practitioners and policy makers in designing and implementing effective programs and policies that better address our community's mental health needs."

The California LGBT Health and Human Services Network is a coalition of organizations that directly serve the LGBT communities of California. These organizations deal with a myriad of issues including safe schools, teenage suicide prevention and elder housing. To learn more about EQCAI's Health and Human Services Network, please visit http://www.eqcai.org/health/about.

Equality California Institute educates lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people and the public at large about issues impacting the LGBT community and our allies. Established in 2000, EQCAI organizes and empowers individuals, communities and allied groups to work proactively for fairness, equality and justice. EQCAI coordinates the LGBT Health and Human Services Network, a statewide health coalition. www.eqcai.org

http://www.eqca.org/site/apps/nlnet/content2.aspx?c=kuLRJ9MRKrH&b=4869041&ct=7608481

An Evening with Marc Adams

Present
An Evening with Marc Adams

Monday, November 23, 2009
7:00 p.m.

Unitarian Universalist Congregation Sanctuary
547 Mendocino Avenue, Santa Rosa

Founder of HeartStrong uncovers restorative therapy & faith-based anti-GLBT bullying at religious educational institutions.

Marc Adams, Lambda Literary Award finalist and Silver Pen Award recipient for his autobiography, The Preachers Son, will share his life’s story as well as discuss HeartStrong, Inc., the non-profit organization he co-founded more than a decade ago. HeartStrong has provided hope and help to GLBT students who have endured faith-based anti-GLBT bullying in religious schools around the world since 1996.

“It can be a very serious situation for a gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender person who finds themselves in one of these schools,” Adams warns. “Parents enroll their kids in these schools without even considering what might happen. Sometimes they enroll their kids in these schools because of their homosexuality.”

“This is a great opportunity to hear firsthand what it is li8ke to grow up gay in such a destructive environment,” Adams says. “As serious as the subject matter is, most people who attend these forums laugh, cry and laugh again as I share about how I found freedom and how HeartStrong has helped so many others on their own journeys to self acceptance.”

We hope you will be able to join us for this very special evening with Marc.

The educational forum schedule is located on the websites below:
http://www.meetmarcadams.com
http://www.exgay.com
http://www.heartstrong.org

Feature: Out of the 'Ash'

Despite improved acceptance, not all gay young adults are ready for the ball just yet...

by Ronnie Cohen

The fantasy world of Fairfax author Malinda Lo's recently published novel, Ash, unfolds long ago, in a time of kings, witches and fairies. But the tale's nonchalant acceptance of homosexual love propels the lesbian retelling of Cinderella into the future.

The turnout at an event earlier this month in the Fairfax Library illustrates just how far off a world free of homophobia, like the one in Ash, might be. Although a Fairfax librarian contacted leaders of gay-pride clubs at local high schools, only one student showed up to hear Lo speak about the book she wrote for young adults.

Two teachers who lead Redwood High School's Pride Plus Club did attend the library reading. They say some of the club's 10 or so members might have shied away from the event for fear it would lead to their parents learning about their homosexuality.

Since they attended high school, the teachers say, the climate for gay and lesbian teens has improved markedly. Kate Lorch, who teaches English at Redwood, graduated from high school in 1994. "I was so relieved and happy to find these high school students were so much more accepting and open as the culture had evolved," she says.

Still, Lorch and Greg Stevens, a Spanish teacher and co-leader of Redwood's Pride Plus, say students hesitate to announce to their families and their communities that they're gay. When they do, their parents sometimes counsel them against making public pronouncements about their sexual preferences for fear of persecution. That fear can translate into being unable to come out and hear a lesbian author talk about her work.

Casey Halcro runs youth groups for gays and lesbians through Spectrum LGBT Center in Novato. "Still, in 2009, the kids don't feel like it's really all that safe, even in Marin County, to be open and honest about their sexuality," she says. "It's been 11 years since Matthew Shepard was shot and left to die in Laramie, Wyoming. But it's only been two years since Lawrence King, a 15-year-old boy, was shot point-blank because kids thought he dressed too femininely here in California."

A 14-year-old boy allegedly killed Lawrence King in an Oxnard classroom in February 2008, a few weeks after he stated publicly he was gay. In contrast, women who love women face no threat of persecution in the world Lo creates for her well-received first book. When the main character, Ash, chooses a huntress over a prince, she does not grapple with a label or the need to come out as a lesbian.

"In Ash's world, there are no lesbians, technically," Lo says. "The fairytale is that she can fall in love with whoever she wants. There's no homophobia in this fantasy world. No one blinks an eye. So it's not a coming-out story. The fairytale is really about her falling in love, and it doesn't matter who it's with."

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ABOUT A YEAR ago, Lo, 35, moved within walking distance of the Fairfax Library to live with her partner, Amy Lovell, and their black lab mix, Spy Girl. On a recent sunny afternoon, Lo took a break from work on her second book, a young adult quest novel, to talk about how she came to be a writer, marriage, being what she calls "queer" and Ash.

Sitting at her kitchen table with Spy Girl at her side, Lo, who was born in China and moved to the U.S. when she was 3, wears jeans, a T-shirt and sneakers. Her shiny black hair falls straight to her chin. In the first draft Lo wrote of Ash about eight years ago, the main character, a young girl, falls in love with a fairy godfather. After reading the draft, one of Lo's friends suggested that Ash had more chemistry with the huntress than the male fairy.

"It was a surprise to me," Lo says, still sounding surprised. "I hadn't intended to write this same-sex romance. I was worried that it would sound gimmicky to write a lesbian Cinderella. But it seemed clear that that's what I wanted to do—subconsciously, at least."

In Ash, there is no glass slipper, the prince has money and power but not necessarily charm, and he does not roam the countryside searching for a beauty with one shoe. Like Cinderella, though, Ash's parents die and leave her to serve an evil stepmother and two stepsisters. Also like Cinderella, because Lo loves parties, Ash attends balls.

In Ash, men tend to marry women, and humans tend to favor humans. But the spectrum of normal sexuality widens so that it's also normal when the fairy godfather falls for Ash and when Ash falls for the huntress.

Lo says she always loved to write, but after graduating from Wellesley College with a degree in economics and Chinese studies, she tried unsuccessfully to become a banker and then went to graduate school, first at Harvard for East Asian studies and then at Stanford, studying Hollywood as a cultural anthropologist.

Unhappy as an academic, Lo quit her Stanford doctorate program and went to work first as a writer and then as an editor at www.afterellen.com , a Web site for lesbians and bisexual women in entertainment.

From www.afterellen.com, Lo learned that lesbian women were tired of being marginalized or killed off in mass media. "It was very clear to me that these women want stories where the lesbians have a happy ending," she says.

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ASH INCORPORATES DETAILS about rituals and customs Lo studied in graduate school. And, like all good fairytales, it has a happy ending.

As an anthropologist, Lo examined marriage. Over the summer, she says, she and Lovell wed, though the state does not legally recognize their marriage. The couple missed the slim window of opportunity—from June through November 2008, before voters passed the gay-marriage ban—for same-sex couples to wed legally in California.

Lo and Lovell had only known each other for about a year when they had the chance to legally marry. They contemplated rushing their wedding last year but decided against it. "It would have felt a little like a shotgun wedding," Lo says. "It didn't seem right to push it.

"I would love to get married legally. It's too bad. Hopefully things are going to change."

Things have changed more than Lo ever imagined when she was in college and first found herself attracted to women. In the 1990s, for example, she says she never could have imagined talk of same-sex marriage.

"Marriage is really important," she says. "As an anthropologist, I've spent so much time studying marriage, family and kinship, and to have gay people enter that institution is a major step. I'm waiting to do it. I'd love to do it."

For more information on Spectrum LGBT Center's youth groups, go to spectrumlgbtcenter.org.

This story was published in the Pacific Sun on 10/23/09

Hate Crimes Bill Passes

Historic First Federal Protections of Transgender People

(October 22, 2009, Washington, DC) In an historic move, the United States Senate, by a vote of 68 to 29, joined the House of Representatives in passing The Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act, which will be the first federal law to include gender identity and transgender people. Once signed by the President, this law will add sexual orientation, gender identity, gender and disability to the categories included in existing federal hate crimes law and will allow local governments who are unable or unwilling to address hate crimes to receive assistance from the federal government. President Obama has indicated that he will sign the bill into law.

"Transgender people have been waiting so many years for assistance from the federal government in addressing the rampant and disproportional violence that we face," noted Mara Keisling, Executive Director of the National Center for Transgender Equality. "Today we move one step closer to our goal of ending violence motivated by hatred. Everyone in America deserves to live free of fear and of violence. We know that the dedicated leadership and hard work of Senator Kennedy and Representative Conyers and many other legislators made the passage of this bill possible. Words can't really express our gratitude for their commitment to equality for all people."

In the past, federal law has only mentioned gender identity in a negative context, such as explicitly excluding transgender people from the Americans with Disabilities Act. The passage of the hate crimes bill marks a significant turning point from the days in which the federal government contributed to the oppression of transgender people to today when federal law takes action to protect our lives.

The Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act will have a number of positive impacts. First, it will help educate law enforcement about the frequent hate violence against transgender people and the need to prevent and appropriately address it. Second, it will help provide federal expertise and resources when it is needed to overcome a lack of resources or the willful inaction on the part of local and/or state law enforcement. Third, it will help educate the public that violence against anyone is unacceptable and illegal.

Transgender people continue to be disproportionately targeted for bias motivated violence. Thirteen states and Washington, DC have laws which include transgender people in state hate crimes laws.


About NCTE

The National Center for Transgender Equality is a national social justice organization devoted to ending discrimination and violence against transgender people through education and advocacy on national issues of importance to transgender people. By empowering transgender people and our allies to educate and influence policymakers and others, NCTE facilitates a strong and clear voice for transgender equality in our nation's capital and around the country. The National Center for Transgender Equality is a 501(c)3 organization.

Defend Marriage Equality in Maine!

The results of the most recent poll on Maine’s Proposition 1 battle were released: 51.8 percent of people who plan to vote in November say they will likely vote no on Prop 1, to protect LGBT couples’ freedom to marry. It also shows that 42.9 percent plan to vote against marriage equality. Five percent remain undecided.

While the numbers are encouraging, we know that this will be a tight, razor-thin election. The numbers are too close, and there is just too much at risk for us to be complacent. We’ve seen in our battle against California’s Proposition 8 how opponents of marriage equality pull their most desperate tricks in the final hours. And we know that they’re using the very same campaign of lies in Maine. In fact, they’re even using the same TV ads!

We can’t let them win. We can’t let them continue to deny us the precious right to marry who we love. That’s why we need to continue to work every day to secure every vote we can until November.

Please sign up for a virtual phone bank. All you need is a phone, a couple of hours, and a computer to secure critical votes for marriage equality. Every phone call counts!

No on 1/Protect Maine Equality also needs to have all the resources it needs in the final days to November 3. Please donate now! Every contribution is vital.

Please forward this to everyone you know who supports equality. Let them know that we must act now to make sure that we win this important battle for marriage and for our families.

Most importantly, if you live in Maine, get out and vote no on Prop 1. Send in your absentee ballot or vote in person on November 3. Your vote is a vote for equality.

In Solidarity,

Kate Kendell, Esq.
Executive Director
National Center for Lesbian Rights

Equality California Calls for Strengthening Ongoing Boycott against Anti-Gay Reggae Singer Buju Banton

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
October 16, 2009

Equality California Calls for Strengthening Ongoing Boycott against Anti-Gay Reggae Singer Buju Banton

San Francisco – Equality California is calling for strengthening the ongoing boycott against Buju Banton, a reggae artist whose music promotes the violent murder of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people. At least 16 concerts in Banton’s U.S. tour have already been cancelled, and despite a recent meeting with LGBT community advocates in San Francisco—who called on Banton to take meaningful steps to build bridges with LGBT community members—he refused and has fired off a new round of attacks.

In response, EQCA Executive Director Geoff Kors issued the following statement:

“Because Buju Banton remains unrepentant and unapologetic for glorifying the murder of LGBT people through his music, we must redouble our efforts and strengthen our boycott against him. His most notorious song, ‘Boom, Bye Bye,’ promotes hatred against LGBT people and a toxic environment that encourages violence. Equality California urges its coalition partners and those who stand for equality to join the boycott against Banton, just as we call on those clubs who have booked him to cancel their concerts.”

For more information on the boycott, visit http://cancelbujubanton.wetpaint.com/. To get the facts about Banton’s anti-gay record, visit: http://www.petertatchell.net/popmusic/buju-bantons-violations-of-the-reggae-compassionate-act.html

Equality California (EQCA) is the largest statewide lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender-rights advocacy organization in California. In the past decade, EQCA has strategically moved California from a state with extremely limited legal protections for LGBT individuals to a state with some of the most comprehensive civil-rights protections in the nation. EQCA has passed over 60 pieces of legislation and continues to advance equality through legislative advocacy, public education and community empowerment. www.eqca.org

LGBT community calls for quality, affordable healthcare during national healthcare reform debate

Community Town-Hall Meeting Held to Discuss Reform Proposals and Encourage community engagement

Get Informed. Share Your Thoughts. Take Action.

Monday October 19th
6:00pm - 8:00pm
San Francisco LGBT Community Center
Free Childcare Provided (Childcare RSVP)


The San Francisco LGBT Community Center is proud to team up with the California Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, & Transgender (LGBT) Health and Human Services Network - a project of Equality California Institute and Our Family Coalition, to host a town-hall forum to discuss the LGBT community's need for health care reform.

The forum will feature a panel of community leaders who are working on LGBT policy and health issues. Dianne Sabin, Executive Director of the Lesbian Health and Research Center at UCSF and Lance Toma, Executive Director of Asian &Pacific Islander Wellness Center will open the forum with an overview of the current state of LGBT health.

The town hall will be moderated by Rebecca Rolfe, Executive Director of the San Francisco LGBT Community Center. Linda Leu, Regional Organizer in Northern California for Health Access, will provide an update about the status of current healthcare reform proposals. Judy Appel, Executive Director of Our Family Coalition, will focus on the needs of LGBTQ families in healthcare reform.

Masen Davis, Executive Director of the Transgender Law Center, will speak on the impact of healthcare reform for transgender people. Kyriell Noon, Executive Director of STOP AIDS Project, will address HIV/AIDS concerns as part of the national healthcare reform process. A question and answer session will follow the presentations, and presenters will discuss opportunities to take action on the healthcare reform issue.

"We are very excited to host this gathering which will be an opportunity to learn about the various proposals being considered in Washington, D.C" said Rebecca Rolfe, Executive Director of the San Francisco LGBT Community Center. "It is important that the LGBT community be aware of what is being proposed and have opportunities to voice our opinions and ensure that our needs are included in a national agenda."

Family Day Proclamation Includes LGBT Families

THE WHITE HOUSE

Office of the Press Secretary
For Immediate Release September 28, 2009

FAMILY DAY, 2009

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BY THE PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA
A PROCLAMATION

Our family provides one of the strongest influences on our lives. American families from every walk of life have taught us time and again that children raised in loving, caring homes have the ability to reject negative behaviors and reach their highest potential. Whether children are raised by two parents, a single parent, grandparents, a same-sex couple, or a guardian, families
encourage us to do our best and enable us to accomplish great things. Today, our children are confronting issues of drug and alcohol use with astonishing regularity. On Family Day, we honor the dedication of parents, commend the achievements of their children, and celebrate the contributions our Nation's families have made to combat substance abuse among young people.

The 21st century presents families with unprecedented challenges. Millions of women and men are struggling to balance the demands of their jobs with the needs of their families. At the same time, our youngest generation faces countless distractions in their social environment. They are coming of age in a world where electronic devices have replaced the playground, televisions have preempted conversation, and pressure to use drug and alcohol is far too prevalent. Parents bear significant stress and burdens to protect their children from harmful influences.

It is our responsibility to talk with adolescents about the risks of abusing alcohol, tobacco, or prescription and illicit drugs, and other harmful behaviors. These substances can destroy the mind, body, and spirit of a child, jeopardizing their health and limiting their potential. Active parents, voicing their disapproval of drug use, have proven themselves to be the most effective preventative method for keeping our children drug-free. A strong and engaged family can make all the difference in helping young people make healthy decisions. By coming together as a family and discussing the events of the day, parents can foster open communication, share joys and concerns, and help guide their children toward healthy decisionmaking. A strong nation is made up of strong families, and on this Family Day, we rededicate ourselves to ensuring that every American family has the chance to build a better, healthier future for themselves and their children.

NOW, THEREFORE, I, BARACK OBAMA, President of the United States of America, by virtue of the authority vested in me by the Constitution and the laws of the United States, do hereby proclaim September 28, 2009, as Family Day. I call upon the people of the United States to join together in observing this day with appropriate ceremonies and activities to honor and strengthen our Nation's families.

IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this twenty-eighth day of September, in the year of our Lord two thousand nine, and of the Independence of the United States of America the two hundred and thirty-fourth.

BARACK OBAMA

Tell Congress it needs to pass ENDA now!

Today, the House Education and Labor Committee will hold a hearing to discuss ENDA, the federal employment nondiscrimination law that would ban discrimination against lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender Americans. It is past time for Congress to pass ENDA -- please take action NOW to help us get the support we need. We must tell our Representatives and Senators how important these protections are to LGBT people.

If passed, ENDA will ban discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation or gender identity in all aspects of employment, including hiring, termination, promotion and compensation. Since currently it is still legal in thirty states to fire an employee based on sexual orientation, and in thirty-eight states to fire an employee based on gender identity, ENDA is an exceptionally important piece of legislation that deserves our community's full support and attention.

Please take a minute of your time to fill out the contact information on CenterLink's website and send out a letter to your senators and representatives urging them to support ENDA, and ask your friends, family and constituents to do the same.

DOMA Repeal Introduced in Congress

Good news! Today lawmakers introduced legislation to repeal the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), a law that discriminates against lawfully married same-sex couples. Through DOMA, the federal government selectively denies same-sex couples more than 1,100 federal protections and responsibilities, including Social Security and immigration benefits, that apply to all other married couples.

The Respect for Marriage Act was introduced in the House by Congressman Jerrold Nadler (D-NY), Chair of the House Judiciary Subcommittee on the Constitution, Civil Rights and Civil Liberties, Congresswoman Tammy Baldwin (D-WI), and Congressman Jared Polis (D-CO). The bill has 91 co-sponsors.

DOMA is discriminatory and harmful to families. Married same-sex couples pay taxes, serve their communities, struggle to balance work and family, raise children, and care for aging parents like other Americans. Their contributions and needs are no different than anyone else’s and their relationships deserve the dignity and protection of federal recognition.

The Respect for Marriage Act would repeal both sections 2 and 3 of DOMA. Section 2 creates an exception to the full faith and credit clause for married same-sex couples. The Respect for Marriage Act would eliminate that provision, but it would leave each state free to decide whether to recognize marriages of same-sex couples from other states. Section 3 excludes same-sex spouses from all federal benefits and protections, including Social Security survivor benefits, the right to file joint taxes, and the right to petition for permanent residence for a foreign spouse. The Respect for Marriage Act would require that the federal government treat all married couples equally.

Our friend and partner Jason Bartlett from the National Black Justice Coalition reminds us of what exactly DOMA has meant for our community. “DOMA is an egregious piece of legislation as it codifies discrimination into federal law. As African Americans, we know all too well the injustices that laws such as this impose on our communities and our families and we are sensitive to the federal government trying to define our families. Let us consign the mistakes of the past to history and move forward together. We call on Congress to pass the Respect to Marriage Act as we continue to fight for our civil rights.”

NCLR is proud to have worked in close cooperation with other groups and lead co-sponsors to help define the scope of the bill to repeal DOMA and to secure federal respect for the marriages of same-sex couples. We support the legislative repeal, as well as the legal overturn, of DOMA.

President Obama has made it clear that he, too, supports an end to DOMA. On June 17, 2009, President Barack Obama said, “I stand by my long-standing commitment to work with Congress to repeal the so-called Defense of Marriage Act. It’s discriminatory, it interferes with states’ rights, and it’s time we overturned it.” The President most recently reiterated his support for the repeal of DOMA in an August 17, 2009 White House statement.

Stay tuned! We're watching the Respect for Marriage Act very closely, and we'll keep you updated on its progress and what you can do to help end discrimination against same-sex couples.

Ever Onward,

Kate Kendell, Esq.
Executive Director
National Center for Lesbian Rights

It’s Time to Speak Out About Health Care

From Rea Carey, Executive Director
National Gay and Lesbian Task Force

The president made it clear and we agree: The inaction in Congress concerning health care must end.

The misinformation from the right and the foot-dragging of those we elected to represent us have wasted too much time. It’s past time to address the health concerns that affect everyone in our country.

Everyone, right or left, agrees that no one in this country should go without health care coverage, and LGBT people — like many other communities — are disproportionately impacted by the hardship caused by the lack of access to medical care and coverage. Affordable and accessible health care is not just imperative to our well-being as individuals, it is crucial to the health of our country.

Please contact your member of Congress right now and demand comprehensive health care reform that includes a public option now.

Last night, President Obama cited stories he’s heard from people denied adequate coverage when they needed it most. There are stories like this everywhere, in every community. I’ve heard stories from you just like these. And the fact remains that LGBT people are particularly vulnerable — often underemployed or simply treated badly by the medical establishment just because of who we are.

If the LGBT community and our supporters don’t demand a solution that addresses the health care needs of all of us we just might end up with a solution that doesn’t work for any of us. We can’t let that happen.

Take action and contact Congress today for real health care reform.

The Task Force has been fighting for years on Capitol Hill to advocate for better policies and to secure funds to support the unique health needs of LGBT people.

We’re making progress, but now is the moment when we must all come together and insist that action be taken. Comprehensive health care reform is an important step in addressing the health challenges faced by so many. It will help us address the care and coverage issues that can have such a devastating impact on all of our lives. All of us deserve the stability and security of knowing that our families will have access to medical care and will not go bankrupt getting the care they need. And guess who can help ensure that, when health care reform is finally passed, it meets the needs of everyone? You.

Now is the time to ensure security and stability for everyone. Contact your member of Congress now and demand comprehensive health care reform today. Our very lives depend it.

Thank you for taking action on health care. Our elected officials need to hear from the LGBT community and our supporters.


Rea Carey, Executive Director
National Gay and Lesbian Task Force

Do you need a photocopier?

On October 1st, Spectrum will be moving to 30 North San Pedro Road, Suite 160. We will no longer need our Kyocera photocopier.

There are three years remaining on this assumable lease at $189/month. The equipment works great. Network-ready: you may print, copy, scan, and fax directly from your network pc. Excellent condition. The copier is an excellent choice for a small business.

If you would like to know more, please call Paula at (415) 457-1115 ext. 209.

The equipment needs to be moved by September 30th.

For details on the machine itself: http://kyoceramita.com.au/copier_km_2530.asp (this is a black and white copier)

Please spread the word!

Movie: Straightlaced - How Gender’s Got Us All Tied Up -- September 24 at the Rialto Theater, Santa Rosa

Straightlaced - How Gender’s Got Us All Tied Up is an uplifting and entertaining film, featuring high school youth speaking candidly about harmful pressures of rigid gender roles and homophobia. From girls who “dumb down” so they don’t intimidate boys, to boys who are sexually active to prove they aren’t gay, to non‐conforming teens who face relentless bullying, the students in Straightlaced show how gender expectations are having an unhealthy and often dangerous impact on today’s youth.

Who: YOU! Every adult who works with children of any age, or who touches the life of even one youth. Every parent, mentor and teen can learn more about the vital issue of gender identity and its impact on mental health.

What: A North Coast premier offering cutting‐edge youth insight about the stress of peer pressure and conformity.

Why: A fundraiser to support GROUNDSPARK FILMS, the lending library of the Sonoma County Office of Education & Positive Images.

When: Thursday Evening, September 24, 2009
7:15 PM Film Showing; 6:00 PM Reception with Academy Award Winning Director, Debra Chasnoff

Where: Rialto Cinemas Lakeside, Santa Rosa
Advance tickets available at Rialto Cinemas and http://groundspark.org/upcoming-screenings

Reception & Film: Donation $5 - $25 Age 18 and under: $5‐$10 sliding scale

Download the Straightlaced Event flyer for more information.

Tel Aviv: Not so far away, after all

By Casey Halcro, Youth Programs Coordinator Spectrum LGBT Center

August 4, 2009

Tucked away in my quiet little suburban Marin County cocoon, not but a stone’s throw away from San Francisco (known for being the Gay Mecca of the U.S.), the Sunday morning news hit me hard. Glancing over the headlines, I noticed that something had happened in Tel Aviv. That’s at least three universes away, right? It didn’t take long for my sleepy Sunday morning brain to string it all together: “Two killed as gunman mows down youths in Tel Aviv gay center.”

Three universes away my people were killed! This was a jolting reminder that I do what I do at Spectrum because there is always more work to be done. Tel Aviv may feel like three universes away, but on Sunday it may as well have been in my back yard.

I remember, just before Valentine’s Day in 2008, reading that a 15-year-old gay boy named Lawrence King was shot in the head while sitting in his school’s computer lab in Oxnard, California. Oxnard, California is just a short 6.5 hours away from me – not three universes.

In October 2002, 17-year-old Gwen Araujo was killed by four men after they discovered her transgender identity. This happened in Newark, California – about an hour away from where I live now.

In October 1998, just one year before my high school graduation, I read about Matthew Shepard, who was beaten and left for dead because he was gay. At the time, I was living in Montana. The horrific crime against Matthew Shepard happened in Wyoming, a state bordering mine…not three universes away.

On New Year’s Eve of 1993, 21-year-old Brandon Teena was raped and murdered in Lincoln, Nebraska. His killers, enraged when they discovered Brandon’s transgender identity, also shot and killed two other people who were trying to protect him.

And now, we mourn the deaths of two more young people, ages 24 and 17; and hope the best for eleven others who were wounded in the most brutal attack on LGBT people in Israel’s history.

Three universes away may as well be our own back yard.

From here in California, Spectrum wants our brothers and sisters in Tel Aviv to know that we stand with them in solidarity. We will NOT stop fighting for equal rights, social justice, and inclusive acceptance of LGBT people; the ones here in our own backyard, the ones three universes away, and all of the ones in between. We continue to work hard on a daily basis to educate, dispel myths, empower acceptance, and promote understanding for all LGBT people. Our own LGBT youth groups will continue to meet, create safe space for ourselves and others, and educate the community surrounding us.

We extend our condolences to the staff and participants of The Aguda (Hebrew for ‘gathering’) Community Center in Tel Aviv, and to the families of those who were killed and wounded.

Contact Casey Halcro at casey@spectrumlgbtcenter.org, or (415) 457-1115 x 213.

The Aguda is an LGBT community center like many in places all over the United States and the world. Nearly 30 years old, The Aguda is housed in the basement of an apartment complex. More information about The Aguda can be found at http://glbt.org.il/ (website is in Hebrew), and the English translation of their website can be viewed using this link.

Candlelight Vigil/Memorial for LGBT Youth Murdered in Tel Aviv

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE: Monday, August 3, 2009

MEDIA ALERT

WHAT: A Candlelight Vigil/Memorial for the LGBT youth murdered and wounded at a LGBT teen center support group meeting on Saturday in Tel Aviv, Israel.

WHERE: FROM: Congregation Sha’ar Zahav (290 Dolores St @ 16th St), SF
TO: San Francisco LGBT Center (1800 Market St @ Octavia St), SF

WHEN: TONIGHT, Monday August 3, 2009 @ 5:30pm


San Francisco, CA… On Saturday, a masked assailant dressed in black from head to toe opened fire on an LGBT teen center’s support group meeting in Tel Aviv, Israel, killing 2 members of the group: 16 year old, Liz Trubeshi, and 26 year old, Nir Katz, the support group counselor, and wounding 10 others. The gunman managed to find the secret location of the support group’s meetings; many of the kids were not yet out to their parents before the shooting. On Sunday, thousands in Tel Aviv protested the senseless murders, and crowds gathered in other Israeli cities as well.

An ad hoc group of San Francisco-based Jewish and gay organizations and individuals is organizing a candlelight vigil/memorial for tonight, Monday night, to memorialize the young Israeli victims. The safety of LGBT youth is of utmost concern; this could happen at any center anywhere in the world. Organizers are calling for LGBT Centers around the country/world to also hold vigils on Monday.

People will gather at the LGBT synagogue, Congregation Sha’ar Zahav (290 Dolores St @ 16th St) at 6:00pm and march down Dolores Street and then down Market Street to the San Francisco LGBT Center at 1800 Market Street @ Octavia St.

Schedule & Speakers
5:30pm Gather at Congregation Sha’ar Zahav (290 Dolores St @ 16th St, San Francisco)
6:00pm March from Sha’ar Zahav to SF LGBT Center (1800 Market Street @ Octavia St)
6:30-7:00pm Speakers & Candlelight Vigil

SPEAKERS (subject to change):
1. Rabbi Camille Angel (Congregation Sha’ar Zahav)
2. Sup. Bevan Dufty (Member of SF Board of Supervisors)
3. Ruby Cymrot-Wu (Bay Area Outreach Coordinator, Jewish Mosaic)
4. Jessica Trubowitch (Dir of Intergroup Relations, Jewish Community Relations Council)
5. SF LGBT Center speaker
6. LYRIC speaker (Lavender Youth Recreation & Info Center; queer youth resource center)

The vigil was organized by Rabbi Camille Angel (Congregation Sha’ar Zahav); Supervisor Bevan Dufty; Martin Tannenbaum (LGBT Alliance); organizer Lisa Geduldig; The Jewish Community Federation of San Francisco; SF LGBT Center; Congregation Sha'ar Zahav; and Kol Tzedek: A Bay Area Coalition of Jewish Organizations for Justice and LGBT Rights.

Hate Crimes Update: Thank Your Senators and Representatives

HATE CRIMES UPDATE: THANK YOUR SENATORS AND REPRESENTATIVES BUT CONTINUE TO EDUCATE THEM

As you know, last week the Senate debated the Matthew Shepard Act, a bill that will expand hate crimes legislation to include violent crimes inspired by the victim’s (perceived) sexual orientation and gender identity. On Thursday, July 16, the Senate voted 63-28 in favor to include the Matthew Shepard Act as an amendment to the Department of Defense Authorization Act (DoD), with all Democrats (excluding Senators Byrd and Kennedy who are absent) and five Republicans voting in favor.

This is a major development in the fight for LGBT rights and protections and if your senators voted in favor of the Matthew Shepard Act please take a moment to call them at the Senate switchboard at 202 224 3121 and thank them for their support. These calls are as important as the calls we asked you to make earlier, because it shows that you are paying attention to what is going on in Washington concerning LGBT issues. Please make these calls today.

But despite this success, we are not there yet!

Yesterday, the Senate voted in favor of including additional amendments introduced by Senator Sessions (R - Alabama). These amendments, one requiring the Attorney General to establish criteria for determining whether a crime was motivated by the status of the victim and one making the death penalty a requirement for certain hate crimes, are unnecessary, weaken the effectiveness of the hate crimes bill, and potentially could make the bill such a hot topic issue that it runs the risk of being dropped during the upcoming session of the House-Senate conference committee that will combine the House and Senate bills into one bill.

The Matthew Shepard Act will not be law until the DoD bill has been approved by the Senate, the House-Senate conference committee does not alter the bill, the updated version of the DoD is passed by both the House and the Senate, and, finally, President Obama signs it into law. This means that we will have to continue pressuring Congress on this issue until all stages are successfully completed. If at any point in time the Matthew Shepard Act is challenged it is unlikely there will be a hate crimes expansion this year.

Do not allow anyone to derail this vital hate crimes legislation, and do not allow those who support the Matthew Shepard Act in the House and Senate to weaken their resolve on this issue.

We need to act! Therefore, in the coming weeks call, write or e-mail your members of Congress (Click here for a list of contact information for senators and here for representatives). If they supported the Matthew Shepard Act, thank them for doing so. But also urge them to make sure the bill will make it to President Obama’s desk in its original form. Please ask your constituents to do the same. None of this takes more than a few minutes, but it can be exceptionally important in making sure that Congress does the right thing, and passes the Matthew Shepard Act.


More information about the Matthew Shepard Act

Learn more about the act by downloading CenterLink Hate Crimes Factsheet - Senate 2009-07.

What is the Matthew Shepard Act?

The Matthew Shepard Act (officially the Local Law Enforcement Hate Crimes Prevention Act or LLEHCPA) is a bill that, if passed, would expand the 1969 and 1994 federal hate-crime laws to include crimes motivated by the victim’s perceived or actual sexual orientation or gender identity. The act is named for Matthew Shepard, the 21 year old college student who was tortured and murdered in Laramie, Wyoming in 1998 because of his homosexuality, one of the many victims of crimes based on sexual orientation or gender identity in the United States each year.

If passed, what would the Matthew Shepard Act actually do?

On the most basic level, it would allow the federal government to prosecute those who commit hate crimes, and would increase the penalties received by the culprits. It will also lift the prerequisite that the federal government cannot intervene unless the victim had been involved in a federally protected activity (such as voting) when the crime occurred. If passed, the Matthew Shepard Act will also allocate more funds to investigate hate crimes, and require the FBI to track statistics on hate crimes committed against transgender people (hate crimes based on sexual orientation are already being tracked).

Is the Matthew Shepard Act really necessary?

Yes. Hate crimes differ from ‘normal’ crimes in that they do not just cause harm to an individual and his or her circle of family and friends, but also to an entire community. When passed, the Matthew Shepard Act will lead to harsher punishment to those who commit hate crimes against members (or perceived members) of the LGBT community and in doing so will send the message that any form of violence committed against an individual because of that person’s (perceived) sexual orientation or gender identity is an attack on the LGBT community as a whole, and unacceptable to society. This is major progress in the fight against gay bashing, as well as the fight for gay rights in general: the Matthew Shepard Hate Crimes Prevention Act sends a clear message that Americans, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity, do not hate to live in fear.

Will the Matthew Shepard Act restrict freedom of speech?

This argument is widely made against the act by Republicans in Congress. While violence in any shape or form, physical or emotional, is despicable and unacceptable, the Matthew Shepard Act is only concerned with physical violence. When passed, the Matthew Shepard Act will not lead to the prosecution of those who make violent statements (outrageous and wrong as they may be) against the LGBT community. Any statements being made that suggest that the Matthew Shepard Act would create a thought police, or would limit the freedom of speech or religion, are either misguided or intentionally false.

What can you do to help pass the Matthew Shepard Act?

Call, write, or e-mail your senators and representatives. If they supported the Matthew Shepard Act, thank them for doing so. But also urge them to make sure the bill will make it to President Obama’s desk in its original form. Please ask your constituents to do the same.

Visit CenterLink for more information.

Come enjoy another evening of Comedy!!

Comedy Night at Mary's Futons
4100 Redwood Hwy 101 at the Terra Linda exit in San Rafael

Sunday, Aug. 9 at 7:00 pm

Door open at 6 for complimentary appetizers

See the Line up! click here: Futon Comedy 94903

Partial proceeds benefit the Mayflower Community Chorus

Action Alert: Keep Calling Your Senators

Since yesterday morning's action alert on the Matt Shepard Hate Crimes Act, the wheels have been turning in the Senate. The bill has now been added by Senator Patrick Leahy (D Vermont) as the Leahy/Collins/Kennedy/Snowe amendment to the FY 2010 Department of Defense Authorization bill. It is important to note that the wording of this amendment is exactly the same as the original bill. It now looks as though a vote will be taken either tomorrow, Thursday July 16, or on Monday, July 20.

Because of that, it is important that we keep the pressure up. Please call your senators and urge them to support the Leahy/Collins/Kennedy/Snowe hate crimes amendment, and ask your constituents, friends, family and colleagues to do the same. The toll free number you can use to call your senators (866-659-9641) will remain open tomorrow.

Learn more about the act by downloading CenterLink Hate Crimes Factsheet - Senate 2009-07.

What is the Matthew Shepard Act?

The Matthew Shepard Act (officially the Local Law Enforcement Hate Crimes Prevention Act or LLEHCPA) is a bill that, if passed, would expand the 1969 and 1994 federal hate-crime laws to include crimes motivated by the victim's perceived or actual sexual orientation or gender identity. The act is named for Matthew Shepard, the 21 year old college student who was tortured and murdered in Laramie, Wyoming in 1998 because of his homosexuality, one of the many victims of crimes based on sexual orientation or gender identity in the United States each year.

If passed, what would the Matthew Shepard Act actually do?

On the most basic level, it would allow the federal government to prosecute those who commit hate crimes, and would increase the penalties received by the culprits. It will also lift the prerequisite that the federal government cannot intervene unless the victim had been involved in a federally protected activity (such as voting) when the crime occurred. If passed, the Matthew Shepard Act will also allocate more funds to investigate hate crimes, and require the FBI to track statistics on hate crimes committed against transgender people (hate crimes based on sexual orientation are already being tracked).

Is the Matthew Shepard Act really necessary?

Yes. Hate crimes differ from "normal" crimes in that they do not just cause harm to an individual and his or her circle of family and friends, but also to an entire community. When passed, the Matthew Shepard Act will lead to harsher punishment to those who commit hate crimes against members (or perceived members) of the LGBT community and in doing so will send the message that any form of violence committed against an individual because of that person's (perceived) sexual orientation or gender identity is an attack on the LGBT community as a whole, and unacceptable to society. This is major progress in the fight against gay bashing, as well as the fight for gay rights in general: the Matthew Shepard Hate Crimes Prevention Act sends a clear message that Americans, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity, do not hate to live in fear.

Will the Matthew Shepard Act restrict freedom of speech?

This argument is widely made against the act by Republicans in Congress. While violence in any shape or form, physical or emotional, is despicable and unacceptable, the Matthew Shepard Act is only concerned with physical violence. When passed, the Matthew Shepard Act will not lead to the prosecution of those who make violent statements (outrageous and wrong as they may be) against the LGBT community. Any statements being made that suggest that the Matthew Shepard Act would create a thought police, or would limit the freedom of speech or religion, are either misguided or intentionally false.

What can you do to help pass the Matthew Shepard Act?

On Wednesday, July 15, and Thursday, July 16, call your senators between 9 a.m. and 5 p.m. ET, through the toll free number 866-659-9641 and strongly urge them to support the Matthew Shepard Act. Please also forward this message to your constituents, friends, and family, and ask them to do the same.

http://center.convio.net

Action Alert: Call Your Senators Today and Help Push The Hate Crimes Bill into Becoming Law

As early as today, Wednesday July 15, the Senate will vote on the Matthew Shepard Hate Crimes Prevention Act. With the House having already passed the bill in April, the Senate is the last major hurdle before the bill will become law. You can help make sure that we are able to take this last hurdle successfully. Between 9 a.m. and 5 p.m. ET, a toll free number (866-659-9641) will be open for you and your constituents, friends, family members and collegues to call your senators and urge them to support the Matthew Shepard Hate Crimes Prevention Act.

Learn more about the act by downloading CenterLink Hate Crimes Factsheet - Senate 2009-07.

What is the Matthew Shepard Act?

The Matthew Shepard Act (officially the Local Law Enforcement Hate Crimes Prevention Act or LLEHCPA) is a bill that, if passed, would expand the 1969 and 1994 federal hate-crime laws to include crimes motivated by the victim’s perceived or actual sexual orientation or gender identity. The act is named for Matthew Shepard, the 21 year old college student who was tortured and murdered in Laramie, Wyoming in 1998 because of his homosexuality, one of the many victims of crimes based on sexual orientation or gender identity in the United States each year.

If passed, what would the Matthew Shepard Act actually do?

On the most basic level, it would allow the federal government to prosecute those who commit hate crimes, and would increase the penalties received by the culprits. It will also lift the prerequisite that the federal government cannot intervene unless the victim had been involved in a federally protected activity (such as voting) when the crime occurred. If passed, the Matthew Shepard Act will also allocate more funds to investigate hate crimes, and require the FBI to track statistics on hate crimes committed against transgender people (hate crimes based on sexual orientation are already being tracked).

Is the Matthew Shepard Act really necessary?

Yes. Hate crimes differ from ‘normal’ crimes in that they do not just cause harm to an individual and his or her circle of family and friends, but also to an entire community. When passed, the Matthew Shepard Act will lead to harsher punishment to those who commit hate crimes against members (or perceived members) of the LGBT community and in doing so will send the message that any form of violence committed against an individual because of that person’s (perceived) sexual orientation or gender identity is an attack on the LGBT community as a whole, and unacceptable to society. This is major progress in the fight against gay bashing, as well as the fight for gay rights in general: the Matthew Shepard Hate Crimes Prevention Act sends a clear message that Americans, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity, do not hate to live in fear.

Will the Matthew Shepard Act restrict freedom of speech?

This argument is widely made against the act by Republicans in Congress. While violence in any shape or form, physical or emotional, is despicable and unacceptable, the Matthew Shepard Act is only concerned with physical violence. When passed, the Matthew Shepard Act will not lead to the prosecution of those who make violent statements (outrageous and wrong as they may be) against the LGBT community. Any statements being made that suggest that the Matthew Shepard Act would create a thought police, or would limit the freedom of speech or religion, are either misguided or intentionally false.

What can you do to help pass the Matthew Shepard Act?

On Wednesday, July 15, call your senators between 9 a.m. and 5 p.m. ET, through the toll free number 866-659-9641 and strongly urge them to support the Matthew Shepard Act. Please also forward this message to your constituents, friends, and family, and ask them to do the same.

For more information visit CenterLink.

LGBT Sonoma Valley seniors connect through new group

Spectrum's "LGBT Seniors: Getting Together in Sonoma" group was mentioned in the Sonoma Valley Sun newspaper this week.

Lesbian and gay Sonoma Valley seniors connect through new group

Gary Carnivele | Special to the Sun

Mainstream media typically offers a limited number of images of the members of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) community. News footage of Pride parades feature the obligatory clips of twenty-something hunks wearing skimpy swimwear gyrating on floats and thirty-something women dressed in studded leather revving their hogs. A small number of forty-something activists of both genders occasionally appear on cable news channels. Unfortunately, few gays are seen who are older. It is as if there is an age limit.

Some local LGBT seniors are making themselves more visible by attending a meeting designed just for them. On the third Friday of every month, a number of them gather at the Sonoma Community Center for “LGBT Seniors: Getting Together in Sonoma.” The group is a project of Spectrum LGBT Center, which provides services to Marin County gay seniors and youth. The non-profit saw a need to likewise serve seniors living in Sonoma County. A sister group meets in Santa Rosa.

“Spectrum approached me about doing outreach in Sonoma County to create some sense of community for LGBT seniors and these monthly meetings gives them an opportunity to talk about their issues, which they may not feel free do in a mostly heterosexual setting,” said the group’s facilitator Gary Shepard, who lives in Sonoma with his domestic partner, Paul Besco. “I consider it a discussion group, but try to keep the group from becoming too cerebral. It’s not a support group or even a social group.”

The free meetings offer lively discussions, mutual support, the sharing of pertinent information, and an opportunity for the older segment of the LGBT population to tell their stories. Everyone is welcome to join the group. The group’s organizers promise the meetings are discreet and what is said by all participants is strictly confidential. Of the approximately 60 seniors who have responded to flyers advertising the group, a core of a dozen or so have become regular attendees.

“I was there for the first meeting, because I was missing the gay community that I enjoyed through Spectrum when I lived in Marin,” said Gary “Buz” Hermes, who was born in Napa in 1939 and moved to Sonoma five years ago when he was able to semi-retire. “We each have unique experiences, values, and perspectives to share, but there still seems to be an underlying LGBT connection that overrides our differences and creates a sense of community.”

Joan Brozovich and Sally Smith were thrilled to see the announcement in a local newspaper and jumped at the chance to make contact with other local LGBT seniors. They moved to their colorful home in Glen Ellen in 1998, but missed living near their lesbian friends who have been moving away from one another to the far reaches of the Bay Area. The couple has been together 27 years. They were married in Canada three years ago, at a ceremony attended by friends and family, including Smith’s grown son whom she raised with her husband before the two divorced.

Brozovich, who is a psychologist in private practice in San Francisco, said, “Even though Sally and I made a life-long commitment to each other shortly after we became a couple, there was nothing that could compare to the joy experienced in having the wedding ceremony and turning around and seeing the tears of joy on our guests’ faces. All couples should be allowed to experience that joy.” Marriage equality for same-sex couples was discussed at one of the group’s meetings. Same-sex couples can now legally marry in six states, but not in California.

The group’s other topics, which are selected each month by Shepard, have run the gamut. Participants have discussed: the challenges of coming out; the role of spirituality in their lives; the meaning of friendships; and the relationship between older gays and the younger members of the LGBT community. Shepard strives to encourage a free exchange of ideas. He has invited the leader of a Santa Rosa-based transgender group to come to speak to the group and answer their questions about the “T” in LGBT.

“I moved here four years ago from Santa Cruz and I was shocked to find there were no LGBT groups or gathering places,” said Will Penna, who was a founding member of Triangle Speakers, who made presentations to schools and organizations is an effort to eliminate homophobia. “I was told by a few other gay men who lived here that they didn’t see any need for such. When I learned of this group last fall, I was delighted.”

The members of this group, as well as LGBT seniors all over the world, are redefining what it means to be a senior citizen and how they fit in the larger community. There are some serious hurdles. For the most part, gerontologists haven’t viewed sexual orientation as relevant to their work. According to a recent by the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, most national health studies of older citizens fail to access sexual orientation. The tide is changing as of late and seminars about aging are tackling LGBT issues.

“Some people in assisted living facilities feel isolated and don’t feel safe talking to others in fear that they will be outed,” said Shepard, who left his work in broadcasting to work for non-profits like San Francisco’s Shanti Project. “I’ve contacted several local facilities and even though they say they are happy to accept LGBT seniors as residents their intake forms fail to identify them. LGBT seniors don’t have different aging issues, just different cultural issues.”

Shepard also serves on the Advisory Council of the Sonoma County Area Agency on Aging, which is responsible for planning and developing policy and advocating for the needs of seniors. The council advises Sonoma County Supervisors, allocates funds for programs as they become available, and makes certain public transportation is accessible. The agency will soon schedule training seminars to educate service providers about LGBT seniors and their specific needs.

Brozovich is excited about the prospect of joining a local LGBT group that is planning to march in Sonoma’s Fourth of July Parade, but Smith’s reaction is a knitted brow and pensive stare. Smith, who teaches French to seniors at Vintage House in Sonoma, seems a bit more reluctant about expressing her sexual preference in a public setting. Smith seems to soften to the idea when she talks about bringing her partner to a party at Vintage House and introducing Brozovich as her partner. And her students were fully accepting.

Shepard makes certain that all LGBT seniors feel welcome, regardless of how open they are about their homosexuality. Some seniors have been forced back into the closet because of where they live or where they work or which senior center they frequent. This generation remembers pre-gay liberation times, during which members of their community were forced into reparative therapy, kicked out of schools, fired from jobs, or otherwise disgraced when their homosexuality was revealed.

“I’m thinking of moving the meeting to the Sonoma Senior Center, if the group approves, so that we have a stronger presence in the senior community,” said Shepard. “The ultimate outcome of the group is when members make contact with each other outside of the group by sharing rides and helping one another out. There is a real need for such support groups.”

The Sonoma Valley Senior LGBT Group meets at 10:30 a.m. every third Friday of the month at the Sonoma Community Center, 276 E. Napa St., Sonoma in Room 210. Contact Gary Shepard, Spectrum Program Coordinator at 707.583.2330 or e-mail him at gary@spectrumlgbtcenter.org

Please Take Action and Demand KRXQ Radio Hosts Rob Williams and Arnie States Apologize for Encouraging Violence Against Transgender Children

Please Take Action and Demand KRXQ Radio Hosts Rob Williams and Arnie States Apologize for Encouraging Violence Against Transgender Children

June 2, 2009— In a lengthy May 28 tirade on the Rob, Arnie & Dawn in the Morning radio show heard in Sacramento, California on KRXQ 98.5 FM and Reno, Nevada on KDOT 104.5 FM, hosts Rob Williams and Arnie States verbally attacked transgender children. While discussing a recent story about a transgender child in Omaha, Nebraska and her parents’ decision to support her transition, the two hosts spent more than 30 minutes explicitly promoting child abuse of and making cruel, dehumanizing and defamatory comments toward transgender children.

You can listen to the entire segment beginning at 4:48 by clicking this link:
http://robarnieanddawn.com/

Among the comments made by the hosts:
ROB WILLIAMS [11:12]: This is a weird person who is demanding attention. And when it’s a child, all it takes is a hug, maybe some tough love or anything in between. When your little boy said, ‘Mommy, I want to walk around in a dress.’ You tell them no cause that’s not what boys do. But that’s not what we’re doing in this culture.

ARNIE STATES [13:27]: If my son, God forbid, if my son put on a pair of high heels, I would probably hit him with one of my shoes. I would throw a shoe at him. Because you know what? Boys don’t wear high heels. And in my house, they definitely don’t wear high heels.

ROB WILLIAMS [17:45]: Dawn, they are freaks. They are abnormal. Not because they’re girls trapped in boys bodies but because they have a mental disorder that needs to be somehow gotten out of them. That’s where therapy could help them.

ROB WILLIAMS [18:15]: Or because they were molested. You know a lot of times these transgenders were molested. And you need to work with them on that. The point is you don’t allow the behavior. You cure the cause!

ARNIE STATES [21:30]: You got a boy saying, ‘I wanna wear dresses.’ I’m going to look at him and go, ‘You know what? You’re a little idiot! You little dumbass! Look, you are a boy! Boys don’t wear dresses.’

ARNIE STATES [29:22]: You know, my favorite part about hearing these stories about the kids in high school, who the entire high school caters around, lets the boy wear the dress. I look forward to when they go out into society and society beats them down. And they end up in therapy.

To her credit, co-host Dawn Rossi stood up to Williams and States during the segment.

Despite her apparent lack of familiarity with transgender issues, Rossi repeatedly defended transgender people and made an on-air apology for her colleagues’ defamatory remarks.

TAKE ACTION NOW!
Please contact KRXQ management in Sacramento, California, where the show is produced and demand that radio show hosts Rob Williams and Arnie States publicly apologize. Call on KRXQ to hold Williams and States accountable for their remarks and establish clear standards to ensure their media platform will not be used to condone or promote violence against any parts of the communities they serve.

Contact:
John Geary
Vice President & General Manager
KRXQ-FM
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Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Pride Month 2009 by the President of the United States of America

THE WHITE HOUSE

Office of the Press Secretary

For Immediate Release

June 1, 2009

LESBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, AND TRANSGENDER PRIDE MONTH, 2009
BY THE PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA

http://www.whitehouse.gov/the_press_office/Presidential-Proclamation-LGBT-Pride-Month/

A PROCLAMATION

Forty years ago, patrons and supporters of the Stonewall Inn in New York City resisted police harassment that had become all too common for members of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) community. Out of this resistance, the LGBT rights movement in America was born. During LGBT Pride Month, we commemorate the events of June 1969 and commit to achieving equal justice under law for LGBT Americans.

LGBT Americans have made, and continue to make, great and lasting contributions that continue to strengthen the fabric of American society. There are many well-respected LGBT leaders in all professional fields, including the arts and business communities. LGBT Americans also mobilized the Nation to respond to the domestic HIV/AIDS epidemic and have played a vital role in broadening this country's response to the HIV pandemic.

Due in no small part to the determination and dedication of the LGBT rights movement, more LGBT Americans are living their lives openly today than ever before. I am proud to be the first President to appoint openly LGBT candidates to Senate-confirmed positions in the first 100 days of an Administration. These individuals embody the best qualities we seek in public servants, and across my Administration -- in both the White House and the Federal agencies -- openly LGBT employees are doing their jobs with distinction and professionalism.

The LGBT rights movement has achieved great progress, but there is more work to be done. LGBT youth should feel safe to learn without the fear of harassment, and LGBT families and seniors should be allowed to live their lives with dignity and respect.

My Administration has partnered with the LGBT community to advance a wide range of initiatives. At the international level, I have joined efforts at the United Nations to decriminalize homosexuality around the world. Here at home, I continue to support measures to bring the full spectrum of equal rights to LGBT Americans. These measures include enhancing hate crimes laws, supporting civil unions and Federal rights for LGBT couples, outlawing discrimination in the workplace, ensuring adoption rights, and ending the existing "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy in a way that strengthens our Armed Forces and our national security. We must also commit ourselves to fighting the HIV/AIDS epidemic by both reducing the number of HIV infections and providing care and support services to people living with HIV/AIDS across the United States.

These issues affect not only the LGBT community, but also our entire Nation. As long as the promise of equality for all remains unfulfilled, all Americans are affected. If we can work together to advance the principles upon which our Nation was founded, every American will benefit. During LGBT Pride Month, I call upon the LGBT community, the Congress, and the American people to work together to promote equal rights for all, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity.

NOW, THEREFORE, I, BARACK OBAMA, President of the United States of America, by virtue of the authority vested in me by the Constitution and laws of the United States, do hereby proclaim June 2009 as Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Pride Month. I call upon the people of the United States to turn back discrimination and prejudice everywhere it exists.

IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this first day of June, in the year of our Lord two thousand nine, and of the Independence of the United States of America the two hundred and thirty-third.

BARACK OBAMA

ONCE AND FOR ALL: What’s next for marriage equality in California?

A Community and Strategy Forum
Wednesday, June 10, 7:00 - 9:00 PM
Acqua Hotel
555 Redwood Highway
Mill Valley

In the wake of the California State Supreme Court's decision to uphold Proposition 8 while letting 18,000 same-sex marriages remain valid, the marriage equality movement is at a crossroads in California.

This forum will provide information about new statewide organizing efforts to win marriage equality back; how the initiative process works for and against that effort; and next steps everyone can take to secure marriage equality in California - once and FOR ALL.

Guest speakers (partial list)

Bob Harmon
ACLU of Northern California, Marin Chapter

Terry Stewart
Attorney who argued before the
California State Supreme Court to overturn Prop 8

Andrea Shorter
Coalitions Coordinator, Equality California

Stuart Gaffney & John Lewis
Plaintiffs in the original Marriage case
Marriage Equality USA & Asian Pacific Islander Equality

This is a free event; donations always welcome to assist with event costs.

Hosted by Spectrum LGBT Center

Co-sponsored by Equality California, Marriage Equality USA (partial list)

To RSVP and for more info call (415) 457-1115 ext. 209

A Turning Point for Marriage Equality

This morning, the California Supreme Court, by a 6-1 vote, upheld Proposition 8, which added a section to the California Constitution providing "Only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California."

The court also unanimously held that the new constitutional provision applies only prospectively, and does not affect the continued validity of the estimated 18,000 marriages of same-sex couples that occurred prior to November 5, 2008, when the new constitutional provision took effect.

This decision highlights the very serious flaw in our initiative process that allows us to eliminate rights for classes of people so easily. We may be sad, angry, and even incredulous over this decision. But one thing is certain: marriage equality will come to California, as well as the entire nation. And we now have 18,000 legally married same-sex couples to stand with us in this quest.

A number of local, state, and national actions are planned in the wake of the decision. Find out more about these actions here.

If you are in, or close to, Marin County and cannot make it to San Francisco for any of the large rallies, Spectrum and Dan Miller invite you to gather on the garden patio at the Panama Hotel, 4 Bayview Street, San Rafael on Tuesday evening, May 26, from 5:30 - 7:00 PM (no-host bar, light appetizers). Location of Panama Hotel (map)

RALLY THIS SATURDAY IN FRESNO! MEET IN THE MIDDLE FOR EQUALITY to galvanize our forces with a day of unity of all peoples - gay and straight alike. Our peaceful events, including our Equality March and our Equality Rally, share the theme of "United for Equailty". Join with us and then take our vision back to your own communities where we can work together to change our world to include federal level equality, access & justice for all.

MARIN COMMUNITY FORUM, WEDNESDAY, JUNE 10, 7-9 PM, ACQUA HOTEL, MILL VALLEY: Join Spectrum at this community forum featuring a panel of speakers, including Terry Stewart, an attorney who was on the legal team that argued to overturn Proposition 8 before the California Supreme Court. More info coming -- stay up to date by visiting Spectrum's website.

We must continue to believe that justice will prevail.

We must continue to have conversations about marriage equality, and how important they are to us all -- gay and straight alike. Because we know that the conversations are what change the hearts and minds of our friends, families, and neighbors.

We must channel our angry energy toward achieving our goal of equality for all.

I am thinking about a couple of lines from the poem "What I Have Learned So Far" by Mary Oliver:

Can one be passionate about the just, the
ideal, the sublime, and the holy, and yet commit
to no labor in its cause? I don't think so.

All summations have a beginning, all effect has a
story, all kindness begins with the sown seed.
Thought buds toward radiance. The gospel of
light is the crossroads of -- indolence, or action.

Be ignited, or be gone.

Be ignited. Join the cause. Don't give up.

Paula Pilecki
Executive Director
Spectrum LGBT Center
www.spectrumLGBTcenter.org

California State Supreme Court will file its decision regarding Proposition 8 on May 26

ATTENTION MARIN COUNTY: Regardless of which way the decision goes, there will be a gathering in the outdoor patio at Panama Hotel, 4 Bayview Street, San Rafael on Tuesday night, 5:30 - 7:00 PM. If you're not heading in to the City, stop on by and join us. No-host bar and food.

Regardless of the decision, a series of actions will be occurring throughout the state (as well as the country) on Monday night and all day Tuesday. The following information was taken from the San Francisco Community Center's action email. For details on other actions throughout the state and country, visit www.dayofdecision.com.

Events and Actions

EVE of Decision Day
Prayer Service: 7:00 p.m. – 8:30 p.m.
Grace Cathedral
100 California Street San Francisco

The night before the announcement of the California Supreme Court’s decision, the Bay Area community is invited to attend an evening of songs and meditation that will center our hearts on peace, healing and understanding. Sponsored by The Bay Area Coalition for Welcoming Congregations, California Faith for Equality, and Equality California*.

Day of Decision
Service/Blessing on Decision Day: 8:30 a.m. – 9:15 a.m.
St. Francis Lutheran Church
152 Church St. San Francisco, across from Castro Safeway

The morning of the decision, Bay Area community members are invited to hear encouraging music and words from community leaders, testimonies from married couples and blessings for those who will be participating in protests or rallies. There will be a march from the church, stopping at the Center and continuing onto Civic Center Plaza. Sponsored by The Bay Area Coalition for Welcoming Congregations, California Faith for Equality, and Equality California*.

March to Civic Center Plaza: 9:15 a.m.

Meet at the San Francisco LGBT Community Center
1800 Market Street @ Octavia
www.sfcenter.org
415.865.5649

On the day of the decision, join fellow Bay Area community members at the Center to march to Civic Center Plaza in unity and preparation for the verdict.

Alternatively, prior to 10:00 a.m., on the Court’s steps (350 McAllister St) you are invited to stand in unity to receive the ruling.

Press Conference covering the California Supreme Court’s Decision

10:30 a.m.
South Light Court, San Francisco City Hall
http://www.nclrights.org/ and http://www.sfgov.org/

Attorneys, joined by religious and civil rights leaders, will discuss the impact of the court’s decision and the next steps moving forward.

Representatives Include:

• S.F. City Attorney Dennis Herrera and Therese Stewart, San Francisco Chief Deputy City Attorney
• Kate Kendell, Executive Director, National Center for Lesbian Rights and Shannon Minter, Legal Director, National Center for Lesbian Rights
• Elizabeth Gill, Staff Attorney, ACLU LGBT & AIDS Project
• Eva Paterson, President, Equal Justice Society, AMICI
• Raymond C. Marshall of Bingham McCutchen on behalf of civil rights groups the Asian Pacific American Legal Center, the California State Conference of the NAACP, Equal Justice Society, Mexican American Legal Defense and Education Fund, the NAACP Legal Defense and Education Fund, Inc., amici
• Geoff Kors, Executive Director and Andrea Shorter, Coalition Coordinator, Equality California
• Tawal Panyacosit, Director, API Equality
• Rev. Rick Schlosser, Executive Director, California Council of Churches, amici
• Same-sex couples
  

Alternatively at 10:30 a.m., (if the marriage ban is upheld): Circle of Care at Civic Center Plaza, a group of Bay Area clergy and congregants, will engage in nonviolent civil disobedience immediately after receiving the ruling. Visit http://www.onestruggleonefight.org/ for more information.

Evening Rally, March and Gathering
Across the nation several communities will hold gatherings on the day of the decision for us to peacefully share our emotions with one another, show our continuing support for marriage equality and prepare to take the necessary steps to move forward. Emceed by Stuart Gaffney, John Lewis, Lawrence Ellis, Molly McKay and Davina Kotulski.

Rally:
Time: 5:00 PM to 6:00 PM
Location: San Francisco City Hall

March:
Time: 6:00 PM to 6:45 PM
Location: City Hall to End at MLK memorial in Yerba Buena Gardens

Community Gathering:
6:45 PM to 8:30 PM
Location: MLK memorial in Yerba Buena Gardens

Saturday May 30th
Meet in the Middle 4 Equality: 1:00 p.m., Fresno

Meet in the Middle 4 Equality calls for an effort to knit a community that cries for FULL Access, Equality & Justice 4 ALL. Regardless of the decision meet on the steps of City Hall in downtown Fresno at 1pm. Busses leave from the San Francisco LGBT Community Center to Fresno at 8:30 a.m. on Saturday. To RSVP for a seat on the bus, and for more information, visit http://www.meetinthemiddle4equality.com/.


Sunday May 31st
The weekend following the court decision, clergy and worship leaders are encouraged to address the theological, social and emotional effects of the court decision during their worship service. A liturgy will be provided for congregations to use during their worship time. Sponsored by The Bay Area Coalition for Welcoming Congregations, California Faith for Equality, and Equality California*


*The coalition of co-sponsors also includes Jewish Mosaic, California Council of Churches, Progressive Jewish Alliance, Freedom in Christ Church of San Francisco, Metropolitan Community Church, The Fellowship, Unitarian Universalist Legislative Ministry of California, Glide Memorial Church, Marriage Equality USA, and the Center for Lesbian and Gay Studies at the Pacific School of Religion.